how to have happy dreams: change the channel
someone did a search on “how to have happy dreams” and found my blog.
just in case that person comes back, or you yourself want to know, this is something i have learned to do–to have lucid dreams.
i thought it would help with the night terrors. unfortunately, since night terrors aren’t dreams but essentially hallucinations that occur before REM or the dream stage of sleep, lucid dreaming techniques don’t help. lucid dreaming has helped me with many nightmares. i might have some strange dreams (see the post “antlers on my head, silene in my teeth”!) and some horrible night terrors, but i rarely have bad dreams or nightmares, and when i do, i take control of the dream and change it. sometimes the dream will scare me enough to wake me up so i go back into the dream on purpose to change it.
my 4 year old son was waking up in the night with scary dreams so this is what i taught him:
change the dream.
it is actually that simple.
every night as part of our ritual for going to sleep, i ask him:
what do we do if we have scary dreams?
we change them to happy dreams.
but mom, he said at first, they’re still scary.
it takes practice, my son, practice. just like learning to ride a bike, you’ll get better and better each time you practice using love to change the dream to one you want to have. when you’re in a dream, and you don’t like how it’s going, you can change direction, you can tell the dream where you want to go and what you want to do! you can do anything you want in your dreams.
so now when he goes to sleep i ask:
what do we do about scary dreams?
change the channel! he says triumphantly.
with lots of love, we agree.