Laws of Attraction: Pick Me! Pick Me for Valentine’s Day & Island Caretaker!

As we all know, we don’t always get picked when we think we should be. Or by the person we hope will pick us. Figuring this all out has fueled the consumption of many a bottle of wine as well as research dollars.

One researcher is the brilliant Pulitzer Prize winning author of Guns, Germs, and Steel, Jared Diamond. He addresses the evolutionary development of human sexuality including some peculiar aspects of human sexuality like why women’s ovulation is not overtly advertised and why humans have sex in private rather than in public in his 1997 book,  Why is Sex Fun? The Evolution of Human Sexuality.

A new book Why Him? Why Her? by Helen Fisher, anthropologist and evolutionary biologist, answers Match.com’s question “Why do you fall in love with one person and not another?” by examining “how brain chemistry determines temperament and temperament dictates who we love,” according to an LA Times article by Erika Schickel.

Fisher’s book argues that there are four basic types:

Explorers

have high levels of dopamine and norepinephrinene; they take risks, are flexible and energetic, spontaneous and easily bored by routine.

Builders

have high levels of serotonin; they’re calm, managerial, loyal, orderly, and conscientious.

Directors

have high testosterone; they’re competitive, self-disciplined, good with systems, exacting, focused

Negotiators

have high estrogen and oxytocin (lucky them!); they’re trusting, broadminded, empathetic, and idealic

Further research showed the following results:

Explorers like Explorers

Builders like Builders

Directors like Negotiators

And me? I’m an Explorer/Negotiator happily celebrating my 7th Valentine’s Day with a fellow Explorer/Negotiator!

Now let’s see how this ties in to my NEGOTIATOR/EXPLORER’s hearts desire: job as caretaker of the Islands of the Great Barrier Reef!

Happy Valentine’s day, everyone! Thank YOU for being my Valentine, for subscribing to my blog,  and for reading and commenting!